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Re: He's just not that into you
 By firecat70. 03/11/09, 08:59 pm
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I thought being cold and aloof attracted girls. The whole 'he acts like he doesn't like me so he must like me'/'he is soooo mysterious' thing. Which I never understood.
Then again I don't understand dating things in general.
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Kat. 03/11/09, 09:03 pm
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nah in reality those girls obsess from afar and never act since the ideal in there mind is better than the person can ever be those few that do appoach become disillusioned since the reality doesnt live to the ideal
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Xxreikoxx. 03/11/09, 09:19 pm
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| Cyren VK wrote: | | Selphiroth wrote: | When people have made this preconception that other people are SEWWW INTO THEM, they'll take anything as a sign. Your existence = THE VERY PROOF YOU WANT IN THEIR PANTS you filthy man tease, how dare to breathe then saying you don't want her?
Seriously though, this is hard but just tell the truth. If you are not into that gender, say so. If you are but not into that particular person, please don't pretend to be gay or straight. Don't give any potentially misleading statements like " um urgh maaybe but I'm not reeeeally", just give a clear "no", and if they still push it give a final one, then just ignore them. No need to be nasty but you have to be firm and leave no room for any waffling.
Sadly this is what people sometimes have to do to put out a clear message of a DO NOT WANT. |
thank you selphiroth, put well. that's what i've been waiting for.
a hoof in the direction of being honest ^^
i think a good girl is one that's smart, arts studenty,
i seem to get along with drama and theatresports types becuse im a witty
geekytype in that area? and someone that has something that reels me in!
like original voice <.< >.> or frozen blue eyes or something! and pretty much
laid back and know a bit about what im talking about humour and mewise.
i have a very odd sense of humour ^^;; sometimes i need to be told to shut up
(becuse i ramble, not offensive xP)
like now
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Hey it's fine and dandy to have a clear knowledge of what you want, i'm in my 20s and i never paid attention i just fell for what i fell for.
I have no chance in hell with certain people LOL, and i just move forth and do what i do best .. and thats be me.
You cyren, are you.. and from what i have seen you are somewhat of an intellectual guy with a flair for wit and eccentric subjects. That attracts many different people in this day and age, and unlike when i was in high school and starting in early college - that was no way some people could get around.
This also is probably my thing in my culture i learned growing up - as an american, unless it's popular and interesting it's usually too geeky.
I've seen your photos cyren, on here and in facebook - be proud that you attract all sorts of people. At the same time, maintain your pride and maturity and level headedness and only stay true to what you actually want and like. Because you are an intellectual witty, great looking young guy with a future ahead of him ^_~.
First off lol i'd mention that you're one of VERY FEW new zealanders that i would've met so far that know anything about visual kei, or hide. (So if it means to keep your sparky nature happy, i may just throw you a hide poster out of my room for christmas [i have one i haven't even used LOL i got it for free when i bought a couple of laminated ones] ) Anyways, your nature is very kind from what i've seen, you'd be right to say i barely know you.
But i beleive in what people say about you, and what you've discussed with me on forums -
So yea, keep being you :3
Don't STOP RAMBLING *SHAKES YOU*
I love it when people randomly ramble LOL
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Kitty of Doom. 03/11/09, 09:27 pm
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The 13 year old girls appear to be very stupid (at my school at least) when it comes to dating. I pity any thirteen/fourteen year old guys who end up meeting them (or me actually) when older.
Most think it's 'cool' to have hickies (hiccies? hiccys?) and if you are unable to have this happen, get a friend to do it or just use a pen.
It is also 'cool' to make out with a million random guys at every dance.
They get asked out by random guys through text (and say yes) who they either have never met and got the number from someone else or met once at a dance.
Then they end up breaking up with the person for what ever reason and get very upset about it.
... When they still haven't met them and haven't even gone out for a week.
It is an absolutely terrible idea to talk to a guy.
On the other hand, it's perfectly fine to make out with them even though you will never even know their name.
They consider people to be 'sluts' if they go out with the same guy for more than two days or have seen his face twice.
The few, no, one girl who actually is having a relationship that has lasted more than a week breaks up with him every now and then because she doesn't want to see the guy because (1) she's too shy and (2) doesn't like to talk to guys and has never even held hands. They have been 'going out' for two months and she also claims she loves him.
Dancing like a slut apparently is 'cool'.
You're weird if you don't act like an utter prostitute at dances. One popular option is to go with condoms all over your clothes.
Don't even get me started on how much one is a social outcast if you don't go to any dances.
It is a must to tell everyone exactly what you do with guys.
Stalking guys through the phone is O.K.
Scratch that, it's a great idea.
Then there's finally me. Who will probably knee any guy who comes on to me, threatened to beat a group of ten year olds to a pulp with a wooden candy floss stick when they tried to give me a hug, is violent, bitter, likes fire and sharp objects and is very cynical about everything and everyone.
So... the girls who seem to like you or this generation of thirteen year olds.
You choose which is better. 
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Xxreikoxx. 03/11/09, 09:55 pm
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Oh hel kitty, it's ALWAYS COOL TO DANCE LIKE A SLUT in your early teens >_> you realize after age 18 bumping and grinding isn't so cool anymore, and you end up looking like a FOOL LOL.
It's one thing to do it as a joke or between friends LOLOLOL.
Culturally i've noticed VERY MUCH that NZ is behind the US in some ways XD.
So some of this sounds like my heyday XD
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Re: He's just not that into you
By CMKMStephens. 03/11/09, 11:20 pm
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| Xxreikoxx wrote: | Oh hel kitty, it's ALWAYS COOL TO DANCE LIKE A SLUT in your early teens >_> you realize after age 18 bumping and grinding isn't so cool anymore, and you end up looking like a FOOL LOL.
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I went to ONE school dance, ever. It was while I was at Scots College, and so I was probably 15 in that year. Everyone did their best MTV ho/bro impersonation and it was quite embarassing to even be there let alone having paid for it. So I did what any good gentleman would do, namely to completely avoid the gym's increasingly high levels of skankiness in favour of eating everything in the foyer.
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Ze Pervy Kappa. 03/11/09, 11:22 pm
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Cyyren!
Yeah some girls suck, But I never once thought that you were hitting on me. XD
You are just a friendly guy who I can be myself around and I do not feel strange or anything.
Be who you are!
I ish proud of you!
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Re: He's just not that into you
By creature124. 03/11/09, 11:43 pm
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| Xxreikoxx wrote: | Culturally i've noticed VERY MUCH that NZ is behind the US in some ways XD.
So some of this sounds like my heyday XD |
I agree with this comment, to a certain extent.
However, in my experience there are other ways culturally in which we are leagues ahead of America, and I saw no sign of hurrying to catch up.
Though really, I suppose it depends on how you define 'ahead'.
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Re: He's just not that into you
By CMKMStephens. 03/11/09, 11:49 pm
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| creature124 wrote: |
Though really, I suppose it depends on how you define 'ahead'. |
s'more like scuttling sidewides on the grand plateau of cringeworthy behaviour.
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Cyren VK. 04/11/09, 12:03 am
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REIKO give me your hide poster....
im not asking, im telling >D
•Most think it's 'cool' to have hickies (hiccies? hiccys?) and if you are unable to have this happen, get a friend to do it or just use a pen.
not cool. gross. good way to say your owned though.
it's like a relationship licence
•It is also 'cool' to make out with a million random guys at every dance
stupid. have fun.
•They get asked out by random guys through text (and say yes) who they either have never met and got the number from someone else or met once at a dance.
Then they end up breaking up with the person for what ever reason and get very upset about it.
trial and error as a youngan. thats how i've build myself to this day
•You're weird if you don't act like an utter prostitute at dances.
OH YEAH. only went to one high school dance and it was a skankfest!
chicks with shortest skirts, boobs about to pop out, JUST GROSS.
i got one dance with a girl by herself and i asked for "in the shadows"
by the rasmus and then we dated C: *lol i took her to alien vs predator*
that's why i was looking forward to the masquerade ball in auckland!
and i genuinly had fun and got a proper dance C'
•Don't even get me started on how much one is a social outcast if you don't go to any dances.
count me in. all the time guys were like "did you get a number?" or "DID YOU GET SOME?"
I MEAN WHAT!!!
•Then there's finally me. Who will probably knee any guy who comes on to me, threatened to beat a group of ten year olds to a pulp with a wooden candy floss stick when they tried to give me a hug, is violent, bitter, likes fire and sharp objects and is very cynical about everything and everyone.
good on ya mate. xP
guy's of this age (rapists, preppy people, guys who think guys
should own and have full right to a girl) SICKEN ME. and the way my head works,
it's most of them but i know it's really not. BUT STILL! stop giving us a bad name!
treat girls right! LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES!
stoopid males.
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Kitty of Doom. 04/11/09, 08:34 am
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I should also mention that at most of these dances, you really should avoid the middle and the walls nearing the end. People have actually started having IT now (yes, I'm calling it IT) in the gym. And people wonder why I don't go after two or three dances.
CMKMStephens: You go/went to Scot's College? My brother used to go there! Even though you would have been in completely different years. I was at Marsden at that point too. '06 ^.^
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Cyren VK. 04/11/09, 11:42 am
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| Kitty of Doom wrote: | I should also mention that at most of these dances, you really should avoid the middle and the walls nearing the end. People have actually started having IT now (yes, I'm calling it IT) in the gym. And people wonder why I don't go after two or three dances.
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yuck. yuckyuckyuck.
complete randoms, not even drunk. just stoopid
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Re: He's just not that into you
By firecat70. 04/11/09, 12:55 pm
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that's why they banned the dances at our school D:
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Kat. 04/11/09, 01:33 pm
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each to their own
at the end of the day what each person does really doesnt matter if it doesnt involve you
as long as you live your life in such a way you have no regrets there is no point in passing judgement on others(except for fun or in court)
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Re: He's just not that into you
By Le_Saboteur. 04/11/09, 01:58 pm
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I know where you are coming from Cyren, except (obviously... or maybe not obviously?  ) it's backward. I guess it's because I'm not afraid of nerdy boys and talk to them and they mistake it for me 'like liking' them. Even if they know level10 too, and know that we actually are in a
'serious and committed relationship'.
It makes everything so awkward, when people mistake friendliness and openness for romantic interest  Especially when you don't want to hurt their feelings and genuinely like them (err, as a friend). I kind of wish that it wasn't seen as weird that boys and girls- or men and women- can just be friends and be caring to one another, without there always having to be a romantic undercurrent
I have to agree with every one that has said 'be honest'. It won't work all the time (I have had an experience where one dude just didn't believe me that I didn't want him and it was weird), but there's not much more you can do.
D:
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